One of my favorite faith bloggers, John Pavlovitz recently posted this statement on his Facebook page.
Married People: If your spouse doesn't have access to all of your social media pages and free run of your inbox, there just may be a problem.
I was a little surprised by the amount of people who were bothered by this comment. Many people argued that even in marriage you should be able to have certain things like your email and social media pages private from your spouse. Many others said that if you and your spouse need to check up on each other by reading emails or private social media conversations then there was a bigger and more concerning issue of trust.
From reading the comments I felt like a lot of people didn't really understand what John was trying to say. I don't believe he thinks couples should be constantly reading each other's communications for the purpose of checking up on each other. But simply that there should be no secrets in marriage.
Of course trust is important in a marriage (as it is in any relationship) but that goes both ways and includes trusting your partner with the personal and private areas of your life. My husband and I have access to each other's accounts but we don't use it; there's no need because we trust each other. But we also trust each other to use any private and personal information with care and respect.
Personally I don't understand needing privacy from my spouse, my relationship with him is the most intimate in my life and for me that means trusting him with all of me and being trustworthy with all of him.